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The Meaning And Experience
Behind
The
Word…Love - (Part 2)
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excerpts from the book
‘Falling In Love Over The
Internet’
by Ernie Rohrbacher MASC (NLP)
The
Meaning
of Love
Love! The word itself transcribes different meanings to different people. All emotions have their basis within each individual, and as such, I feel it is probably impossible to define any
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emotion, especially one as deep, and true as love. I feel that love is a journey and not a destination. It is not static, rather continual. Love may have many components such as respect, appreciation, admiration, abundance, caring, understanding, communication,
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and compassion. And then there is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. It also does not end there. There seems to be different levels of love, and we can love many people and all for different reasons.
I have a close and dear friend of mine whom I met on the Internet, and she lives in Canada. Her name is Darlene. We love each other to the core of our bones, and yet have no romantic affiliation towards each other. Our friendship goes to the depths of being able to know what each is thinking and feeling without a word being said, and being thousands of miles apart. We also many times write the same things at the same time. Conversely and similarly, Deb and I knew what we were thinking and feeling without the need for words, and there was deep romantic attraction towards each other to the point that we physically became lovers. Alla and I still feel one another after knowing each other for over 12 months now.
Inquiring why people connect up to the Internet in the first place has the same reasons that drives all human
behavior…
'Everything we do, comes down to our emotional need to avoid pain, and our desire to gain pleasure.'
Many people connect up to the Internet to meet new people and make new friends and have a good time. This can be easily achieved by the sharing of one's life's' experiences and by telling jokes and even by playing music. Some people use the Internet as an escape from reality, as in the case with Deb. Other people use it as a source of inspiration and mental stimulation by talking about philosophy, religion, spiritualism, or even to help others who are feeling less than resourceful. Either way, it is more for the pleasure that people expect to receive, that they connect up to the Internet, and follow their own interests, and make new friends. I go onto channels to help people who are feeling depressed, and help them feel better by listening to their story and letting them blow off steam.
How then exactly is emotion passed on via the telephone or Internet? This seems to be a very commonly asked question, and the answer I have reached after much study, thought and experience, is that much emotion is passed on over the Internet comes down to 3 primary factors, being:
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Emotions such as humor, empathy, understanding, caring are passed on via the Internet by using appropriate language, and tactfulness. Short phrases such as uh huh allows the person to feel heard and to continue with what they are saying. Two words that have great impact on someone from experience are I understand. Have you ever felt angry after reading an article in a newspaper, or wept after reading a romance novel? Words have the power to create any emotion even if just written, let alone if spoken and heard over the telephone. It makes no difference if it is an article in a newspaper we are reading, or if it is written on a computer screen …. words written are words written.
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Emotion is passed on mostly by rapport, using different rapport tactics.
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Emotion over the Internet is partly self generated. It is well known that the mind cannot differentiate between what is vividly imagined and what is real. Our body chemistry reacts the same way.
Ernie Rohrbacher MASC (NLP)
Falling In Love Over The
Internet
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to read Part 3
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